Vee, whose real name is Siobhan Burt, revealed during an appearance on the Tea At Four podcast that she spent nearly four decades living a celibate life before experiencing what she describes as a “sexual awakening” later in life.
“I became an escort in 2017,” she explained during the interview.
Before that, she had spent years involved in religion and strict beliefs around intimacy.
“When I became a born-again Christian and we couldn’t have sex, it was like, ‘Well, I didn’t enjoy it in my younger years anyway, so it’s not going to be a loss,’” she said.
According to Vee, the lack of interest in intimacy during those years made celibacy feel manageable.
“That’s how I managed to go through the 40 years,” she explained. “Partly because it wasn’t allowed in the church, but also because I didn’t have any interest.”
Everything changed later in life when she began exploring a completely different side of herself — eventually launching a career as an escort and adult content creator.
During the podcast, Vee answered questions from callers seeking advice about relationships, intimacy, and insecurities many couples struggle to discuss openly.
One caller, a 25-year-old woman named Lucy, shared concerns that her boyfriend wanted to end their relationship after learning about her previous interest in BDSM.
“My boyfriend is considering breaking up with me after learning about my past sexual kinks,” the caller explained. “Just because I had a few wild years exploring BDSM, he thinks we’re no longer compatible.”
Vee initially responded with humor.
“Just going to put you on hold and I’ll come back shortly — after I’ve killed him,” she joked.
But she quickly shifted into a more serious conversation about honesty and communication between partners.
“The fact that she admitted it is good because she’s being honest,” Vee said. “If he doesn’t like it, then ditch!”
Still, she encouraged the caller to explore the deeper reason behind her boyfriend’s discomfort before making a final decision.
“Maybe try to find out why he doesn’t like it,” she explained. “Has he got a problem with it? Or are you hoping he’ll participate? Or is it something you experimented with and moved on from? There are all kinds of reasons somebody might feel insecure about it.”
Throughout the conversation, Vee repeatedly returned to one theme: communication.
She argued that many couples avoid discussing intimacy honestly, which can slowly create frustration and emotional distance inside relationships.
According to Vee, this silence is one of the biggest reasons some married men eventually seek excitement elsewhere.
“Very common,” she said while discussing clients who come to her with fantasies they feel unable to share at home.
“It’s the men that want to explore, but the women don’t want to. The women are stuck with missionary — they don’t want to do any other positions.”
Vee even shared a personal story about her own sister that left her stunned.
“I mentioned a 69 to my sister once, and she’d never heard of it,” she recalled. “And I’m thinking, ‘You’ve been married for 40 years — have you only done missionary?’”
For Vee, the issue is not necessarily about extreme behavior or constant experimentation. Instead, she believes long-term relationships often suffer when couples stop being curious about each other or stop talking openly about their needs.
She also emphasized that compatibility can vary widely from one relationship to another.
“You’ve got to find what works for you,” she explained.
When asked about favorite positions, she admitted there is no universal answer.
“It depends on the shape of the man and his penis,” she said candidly. “Different positions work differently on those two factors.”
While some listeners praised Vee’s honesty and openness, others criticized her views, arguing that marriage involves much more than physical experimentation.
Still, her appearance on the podcast has triggered widespread discussion online about intimacy, communication, and the emotional gaps that can quietly grow inside long-term relationships.
Whether people agree with her or not, Vee’s comments touched on a topic many couples rarely discuss openly — how silence, embarrassment, or fear of judgment can slowly damage connection over time.
And according to the 73-year-old escort, the solution is often much simpler than people think:
Talk honestly before distance turns into secrecy.